The Little Things

Marriage Mentoring For Indian Couples Worldwide.
For Healthier and Happier Marriages.

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B M
13 days ago
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Sophia at Little Things is an amazing marriage counsellor. She is empathetic, patient, and non-judgmental, creating a safe space for honest conversations. Her guidance has helped us improve our communication and understand each other better. Highly recommend her to any couple looking to strengthen their relationship!
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T M
16 days ago
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The Little Things came into our lives at a time when we really needed the support, and it genuinely felt like a lifesaver. Sophia is not only an amazing therapist, but more importantly, a wonderful human being. We have been attending couples therapy with her for the past year, and the sessions have been incredibly helpful for both of us. She has a way of making even difficult conversations feel light, comfortable, and easier to understand and process. Sophia is extremely patient, a great listener, and her ability to understand both perspectives without judgement is something we truly appreciate. She has helped us navigate our issues with much more clarity and understanding. We would wholeheartedly recommend Sophia and The Little Things to any couple going through challenges, whether big or small. It has been a genuinely refreshing and positive experience for us, and we are very grateful for the support and guidance we have received.
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Z N
36 days ago
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IWe got Sophia's contact through a common friend and decided to take her help.It was the best decision for our marriage.She is an amazing therapist who understand marriage and dynamics for couple in a beautiful way.She provided a safe and comfortable and non judgemental space for both of us to express our thoughts and feelings openly. W e gained ways to improve communication .It's rare to find a therapist who don't simply give advice, but truly understands what therapy is about. I really appreciate the way she listened, understood, and created a space where we could explore things ourselves without feeling judged or told what to to.
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S N
145 days ago
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Sophie was recommended to me by a family member and my husband and I have been doing therapy for about a year. She's very thorough in her methods to understand the couple, the problem areas and finds out ways for the solution to reveal itself. At no point during the sessions did we feel blamed or judged, it was always about 'us'. Although initially it did feel like things were slow, now I can confidently say - trust the process. We are at a place now which we haven't been in for a very very long time and this has been possible only because of the correct mentoring coupled with our efforts. We were provided with numerous tools and frameworks to guide us through our marriage and that is also helping us a lot. Would definitely recommend TET and Sophie to anyone looking for some help in the relationship.
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N H
159 days ago
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To anyone considering working with 'The Little Things', I cannot recommend them highly enough. When my husband and I first began our sessions, we were in a place of deep disconnect. We had been separated for two full years. The distance between us felt impossible to bridge. While we wanted to heal, we weren't entirely sure if our marriage could survive. Today, I am writing this review from the home we are once again sharing. The transformation we have experienced is nothing short of life-changing, and we owe so much of it to the guidance, patience, and expertise we received in this office. The Little Things bases its practice on the Gottman Method, and they are absolute masters at applying these concepts to real, messy human lives. Instead of just letting us vent or spin our wheels in endless arguments, they gave us a concrete, science-based framework to rebuild our relationship from the ground up. When we learned that our foundational friendship and trust needed serious repair, our therapist systematically helped us rebuild our commitment to one another in a way that felt entirely safe and highly structured. One of the most impactful parts of our therapy was learning to identify and eliminate destructive communication habits. For years, those habits had driven us apart. Roopak gently but firmly held us accountable, teaching us how to replace those habits with relationship-affirming ones. They didn't just tell us what we were doing wrong; they equipped us with the exact tools to do it right. After two years of living apart, we had completely forgotten how to notice or respond to each other's emotional needs. Through guided exercises and incredibly empathetic counseling, we were able to find our way back to true intimacy. What makes Roopak so exceptional is their ability to remain completely neutral while making both of us feel entirely heard, respected, and deeply validated. Couples therapy is incredibly hard work, and there were sessions that tested us. But because of the environment our therapist created, we always left the session feeling like we were on the same team, rather than opponents. The Gottman tools we learned weren't just theories; they became the daily practices that brought us back under the same roof. We now have a shared language to navigate conflict, and we actually understand how to repair things when we inevitably stumble. Living together again after a two-year separation is a massive transition, but we are stepping into this new chapter with confidence, love, and a fortified partnership. If your marriage feels broken, if you are living apart, or if you feel like you've tried everything without success, please make an appointment here. Roopak didn't just help us save our marriage; they helped us build a brand new, healthier, and much stronger one. We will be forever grateful.
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A C
169 days ago
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After a few difficult years of marriage after several attempts at counselling followed by many months of separation from my wife, when I didn’t know what to do, I came to ‘The Little Things’ after having researched it on the web. Little did I know that they would help me far above my expectations! Roopak facilitated a highly systematic restorative journey, utilizing his profound expertise in the Gottman method to rebuild our marriage. Through thorough teaching and practical exercises, he provided a *cohesive framework* of principles and techniques essential for navigating a fulfilling partnership. We were able to recall, relate, and put into practice the principles taught. His clear, methodical approach successfully brought us back together in just six months, equipping us with the tools necessary for long-term relational health. Roopak was committed to remain an active listener, neutral mediator, and an expert facilitator between me and my wife in all the sessions. He was extremely patient. He shared many personal stories/incidents with us to make us relate to the principles well - something that many therapists don't do. I would like to emphasize the importance of the structured program for mentoring they have that can span many sessions. It is similar to physical therapy where after the initial diagnosis (intake session), they come up with a roadmap of treatment that can last for several months. It is this that helped to bring back our marriage to health. Therapy offered on a session-by-session basis without a roadmap in place won't be effective - I have been there. At the end of the program, it was clear to me why Roopak said that they don’t take on cases where only one of the two partners is present for the therapy. Without the other, it is impossible to learn and successfully practice the principles taught and to build back the marriage - both must be present. There are therapists who encourage solo attendance saying that improving one partner alone helps the marriage - my experience is that it does not. ‘The Little Things’ is a gem specializing in couples’ therapy. NRI couples would find them very suitable because they understand Indian cultural nuances very well unlike their international counterparts. Their package price might seem a comparatively high, but so is their deep specialization in and dedication towards couples therapy and relationship healing! They also approach therapy with a resolve and responsibility to put your marriage back on track. Roopak keeps attending various workshops and trainings throughout the year to keep himself updated/rejuvenated to be an excellent therapist. Thank you! I am grateful that I chose 'The Little Things'.
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Y B
179 days ago
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I clearly remember the “ship” analogy: such a unique and relatable way to help us understand the journey and structure of our sessions. Each session was not just therapeutic, but also deeply educative and, in many ways, transformative. Over time, it genuinely helped reduce the differences between me and my wife. In today’s world, especially in a love marriage, there’s often an unspoken pressure to keep the relationship exciting, transparent, and always “perfect.” Through my sessions with Roopak Nedumpilly, I felt truly heard, understood, and emotionally lighter. His introduction to the Gottman Method gave us practical tools and a structured approach to navigate the challenges in our relationship more effectively. Today, whether it’s emotional connection or physical intimacy, I feel far more at ease handling day-to-day misunderstandings and unmet expectations with my wife. There’s a sense of clarity and calm that wasn’t there before. Roopak is incredibly empathetic and intentional in his approach. He ensures consistent progress through thoughtful follow-ups and keeps you aligned on the path of real transformation. If you’re looking for a couples therapist, marriage counselor, or relationship coach who combines empathy with proven frameworks, I would highly recommend him.
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V S
180 days ago
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The sessions were hyper customised to express ourselves very openly and that helped us be very clear about our couple goals. Thanks in ton to Roopak Nedumpilly for helping us out in this journey. Highly recommended to the ones who feel that facing and Dealing with relationship challenges is worth it.
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S S
204 days ago
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The therapy has helped me personally realize and learn a lot about myself, why certain things upset me and why certain behaviors of my partner trigger me. Initially, I had this feeling that I was right and that I was being perfect in the relationship, but I never realized how much there was to learn about my own self. More than learning about my partner, it has truly been a journey of self discovery. From understanding how to communicate in a relationship, to recognizing how we can unintentionally hurt each other, to learning how to express love in ways the other person truly understands, it has been deeply insightful. I have also realized how understanding each other the right way can help us heal. The Gottman tools are excellent and very to the point. The process is definitely not easy, it is not a piece of cake. It requires a lot of effort, but I truly feel that the effort is worth it when it comes to healing the relationship and moving it in the right direction. Going through this whole process, I honestly feel courses like this should be made compulsory before getting married… it would save all of us a lot of confusion, drama, and maybe a few unnecessary arguments 😄
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S C
263 days ago
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Roopak was calm, attentive, and genuinely invested in our case. He remembered even the small details from our initial sessions, which made us feel truly heard. He explained the process clearly and encouraged us to trust it, even when it felt tough. After therapy, we are doing much better as a couple, giving each other space while also embracing one another. We’ve learned that our partner isn’t perfect, and neither are we. Grateful for the clarity and progress this journey has brought us.

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About Us

About Us

The Little Things – Simplifying Marriage is India’s first Marriage Mentoring organization bringing marital education and wellness programs to empower Indian couples globally. Our unique approach goes beyond healing hurting relationships – we believe in proactively saving and nurturing them.

 

We offer a comprehensive ecosystem supporting couples at every marital stage. Whether you’re premarital, newlywed, expecting, navigating parenthood, embracing the NRI lifestyle, embracing empty nests, or tackling menopause – we’ve got your back.

 

Our marriage wellness collective includes a powerhouse of experienced professionals – counselors, mind coaches, family financial advisors, and doctors. We strongly believe that most relationships, big and small, are worth nurturing and saving.

 

We carefully research, collate, and present the best of the little things – simple yet impactful practices that effortlessly steer your marriage toward the desired positive shifts.

 

With the idea of making our programs flexible and accessible, we offer online and in-person marriage mentoring programs tailored for Indian couples across the globe. From courses to mentoring programs, from enriching blogs to real stories that inspire, from couples therapy to a supportive community, we’re here to support you on your journey to create a happier and healthier relationship.

A Book for Every Modern Indian Couple

Row, Row, Row Your Boat: 50 Simple Little Things To Navigate The Modern Indian Marriage
Marriage Wellness Book

The modern Indian couple stands on an interesting cusp of two worlds.

Even as their roots lie in the ancient wisdom and traditions of our longstanding culture, they are simultaneously embracing the future of modern living.

 

In the book Row, Row, Row Your Boat, Couples Therapists & Marriage Mentors, Sophia Philips and Roopak Nedumpilly speak of their own journey as a couple navigating these dual worlds and share the insights they have gathered along the route. Early in their marriage, they realized that their relationship was like a boat – sailing sometimes through turbulent waters and sometimes through gentle, placid waves. In each of these varied moments, it was by paying attention to the little things, the details, that they were able to rediscover each other and grow together to navigate the oceans.

 

Through their lively and refreshingly honest anecdotes of marital fiascos and repair attempts, they take the modern Indian on a self-reflective journey. It makes the reader examine their marriage and help them row better – together.

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A must read book for every couple A very well written book that tells you some of the practical, tried & tested ways of sailing smoothly in a relationship with your life partner. It sheds light on how marriage is more than just two people deciding to spend the rest of their lives together or more than just two families uniting. It is something that requires deliberate efforts from both husband and wife specially in the way they listen, communicate or respect eachother. All these things are explained in a simplistic yet powerful manner in the book & it is a must read book for every couple. Congratulations to the authors Roopak & Sophia for bringing out a great book worth reading..
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V J
1511 days ago
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A true gem! This is a book that empowers love, togetherness and all the good things that we yearn for.The authors' insights will be valuable not just for couples, but also for most other relationships.I especially love how the book helps us take ownership of our situations. Each observation shared in the book, if implemented, can open doors towards more fulfilling relationships.A must-read!
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S A
1513 days ago
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A must read for couples and wannabe couples!!! The book is easy to read and it helps to sensitise ourselves on various situations in a relationship!If you are jittery about being in a relationship, then this book is the apt one to familiarise yourself on various day to day issues!
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A C
1517 days ago
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A warm thought-provoking guide to better relationships Relationship guides are often navigating such difficult emotional terrains that writing about them simply yet profoundly can be difficult. Somehow 'Row row row your boat' achieves both!It gently nudges couples to re-examine their daily lives and engagement styles - those little things that lay the foundation for a long successful relationship. I really enjoyed the writing style which combines role-modeled dialogues, research and reflective lines of enquiry. The authors - Sophia and Roopak - seem to have put in so much heart and experience into this endeavour from their own lives - which makes it stand apart from other more impersonal relationship books. Congratulations to the authors for truly putting together a thought provoking read!
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1533 days ago
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A very relevant and extremely easy to read book, highly recommend.. Very interesting and inspiring to read. Simple, Easy, lucid language, truthful day-to-day conversations of micro behaviors leading to life-changing buildouts. Good not only for couples, but everyone wanting to strengthen relationships I finished in one go. Thank you Roopak & Sophie for putting your distilled wisdom...

Blog

Blog

Flip through our blogs, and you may find
a couple of practical little things that you could do immediately
to kindle connection and intimacy with your partner and,
inspire you to take your first steps towards your marriage wellness. Remember, it’s the little things that make big differences. 

The Little Stories

Little Stories

Stories inspire us.
We asked our patrons, friends, and families
what they believed made their couplehood special.
Here are a collection of little stories they told us.

Helped my husband and me a lot


My therapist asked me to enroll in this program along with my husband during my pregnancy. It has helped us both a lot. I feel that my husband was more involved in the pregnancy and with the baby.

> Wife, Married for 5yrs

This program helped me get closer to my wife


My wife and I had felt that we had drifted apart after our son was born. It also got complicated because she and our son was staying in her hometown. This program helped both of us understand where we must focus our attention and what we can do together to help our marriage. This is a program I feel we should have done while she was pregnant itself.

> Husband, Married for 4yrs

We could identify and address most of the issues in our marriage


My wife joined me in Canada 6 months after our wedding. I have been here for a little over 2 years. It was great being with her in the beginning but we were fighting a lot very soon. I felt her family was interfering a lot even though they were back in Bangalore. We had reached a point where we thought it was best that we separate and that is when a friend suggested we enroll in the program with The Little Things. It was a good experience to go through the program. We could identify and address most of the issues we were facing. Some issues, we realized will remain and that is the DNA of our marriage! Be prepared for a lot of self-work!

> Husband, 32 years, Toronto, Canada

Helped a lot to identify our weaknesses and work on them


There were great conversations that happened through this program. I am so thankful to Sophia for the warmth and understanding she showed. The insights, tools and methods she provided, guided us to identify the stress points in our marriage and bridge our gaps.

> Female, Married for 3 years, Attended the Online Mentoring Program

Many things have started changing towards the better


This program helped me work on my relationship with more understanding. I realized that with their input and my own efforts of doing some little things and changes, many things have started changing towards the better. I would definitely recommend this program to anyone who wants to build a stronger bond in their relationship with their husband or wife.

> Male, 18 Years of Marriage, Attended Online Mentoring Program

It helped us draw out our feelings about us


The experience was good. Had quite a few activities today, which seem simple but brought out a lot of meaning, thoughts and shifts within our context. It helped us draw out our feelings about us and our relationship and I really loved it. There were revelations on what little things that I can proactively tweak to bring about a positive change in my relationship with my wife.

> Male, Married for 3 months, Attended the Offline Session

Helped me to talk to my wife with more clarity and understanding


I  was feeling lonely in my relationship most of the time. I was finding it difficult to talk to anyone, I am close to. Somehow my family and friends couldn’t understand how I felt. But I felt heard and understood at TLT. Taking this program, helped me to talk to my wife with more clarity and understanding. I feel she understands me better now and I am more open to understanding her too.

> Male, Married for 18 Years, Attended the Online Mentoring Program

We decided to stay and work on ourselves and our relationship


My husband and I were living together in Mumbai and post the wedding our work took us to different parts of the world. When we finally reunited in Dubai after 3 years, we realized that we could not relate to each other at all. We were constantly fighting. Also, he confessed about having feelings for a colleague and he was not too sure if he wanted to continue our marriage. He actually suggested we try therapy and his sister gave TLT’s website. We enrolled for the program and we see a difference in our relationship. We have now decided to work on our marriage and take it forward.

> Wife, 29 years, Dubai

Different because it felt tailor-made for me and my wife


We thoroughly enjoyed the whole day! I have been a part of many workshops and also have conducted workshops as I am a trainer myself. This one was very, very different. Different because it felt tailor-made for me and my wife. I did not know that such simple and yet powerful techniques will work so well. I now think that all couples who are getting married to attend a workshop like this.

> Male, Married for 2 months, Attended the Offline Program

Very practical in helping us understand things based on our own context


The day was amazing. The sessions on relationship management, financial stability and all the other activities made me understand my partner well – how I think, what she feels and how we both can merge our thoughts together. The team also was very practical in helping us understand things based on our own context. Thank you so much.

> Male, Soon to be Engaged, Attended the Offline Program

It was very relevant to my life and my partner


Frankly speaking I did not know what to expect at the workshop. But I realised that from the first hour itself that it was very relevant to my life and my partner. It was through simple activities I realised that what we can do differently to make changes for the better in my married life. It was very insightful. Thank you team TLT for the passion with which you have created this very unique workshop.

> Female, Married for 2 months, Attended the Offline Program

Feeling confident as I am getting into an arranged marriage


Ours is (going to be) an arranged marriage. Due to the pandemic, I could only meet him online because even the girl-seeing happened online. I was not too sure whether he and I are a good match. My mentor asked me to contact TLT who I believe she had referred to many of her students. This program helped me and my fiancé know each other much better. Feeling much more confident now and waiting for our wedding in January.

> Female, Soon to be Married, Attended the Online Mentoring Program

Had so much fun while we discovered about each other & built a stronger bond


As a couple, we were doing many new things in the lockdown. When we found TLT, it was just another lockdown activity, but it turned out to be much more than that. We actually had so many surprises and so much fun while we discovered about each other and built a stronger bond through all the sessions and activities. We were taught to work with ourselves and our relationship. We also realise that the same techniques can be applied for all our relationships. Thank you Sophia and team TLT.

> Male, Married for 17 years,  Attended the Online Mentoring Program

I personally found a lot of validation about my feelings


The experience of attending the session was beautiful! It was coupled with experiences that we have experienced long back but have seized to experience it now because of our hectic lives and shifts in our relationship. There were reminders on how to draw from what worked for us in the past and how to make it work now – like talking and laughing for silly reasons. I personally found a lot of validation about my feelings and emotions that I felt about my husband. This program enabled me to help my husband understand some things that I have been trying to communicate to him from a long time.

> Female, Married for 3 months, Attended the Offline Program

Well structured way of understanding someone who I need to be spending the rest of my life with


We were asked to attend this program by my fiancé’s sister. I felt it was more practical than sitting at a coffee shop and have conversations that may not give the actual context. This was indeed a more practical and structured way of understanding someone who I need to be spending the rest of my life with. The experience was amazing and beautiful. It made me to be in the real time and come out of my perceptions and apprehensions of marriage because I understood a lot of things about my future fiancé and I felt that I can see him more from a realistic point.

> Female, Soon to be Engaged, Attended the Offline Program

Research

Research

Impact of COVID-19 Pandemic
on Indian Marriage – A Study

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COVID-19 on the marital relationship of Indian couples.
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